I didn't get a chance to say much yesterday about the Solstice activities around the house. In short, not much happened as we were occupied with a different friend's children. They needed a place to be with grownups at night while their mom worked and their dad flew home from the east coast. We had a mostly good time with drawing, watching football, and eating spaghetti with meatballs until they got tired and started snipping at each other. Such is life with a sibling. ;-)
FH and I have now been married for one year. We're going out tonight, come Hell or high water, without any children tagging along. If friends need our home, they are welcome to it while we are gone. It's important to have this time alone, especially after all of the company. It's hard to reflect and converse about our growth as a couple with other peoples' children underfoot.
Don't get me wrong. I love all of these kids that we've had with us all weekend. I just love spending time with FH more. And if there's one thing I want to avoid in our life together its forgetting that first we are a partnership and we need to take care of each other first, above all others. I believe that is why many couples get divorces. They forget to nuture each other. Not gonna happen here.
Now, by the Julian calendar, today is our wedding anniversary. However we were married on the Winter Solstice, at sunset last year.
The Winter Solstice marks a time of hope, reminding us all that Spring is coming again. Life begins to restart after the shortest day of the year.
That's the reason FH and I chose to pledge our troth on the Winter Solstice. Until our deaths there is that much more meaning to the Solstice... not only does life begin anew, but it serves as a reminder to always allow our love to do the same.
So Happy Anniversary, my dearest heart. May we have many, many more.